Showing posts with label perfectionism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label perfectionism. Show all posts

Thursday, May 12, 2016

What's the Worst that Could Happen?

Fun book, terrible movie.

So it happened. I missed a day in the #MTBoS30 challenge. Yeah, I had a Tumblr post, but that doesn't count, right? Because ... well, I guess I made up some rules and that's one of them. For an okay reason, maybe. I post to Tumblr regularly, but this blog has fewer entries every year. Why do the number of entries matter? On the one hand, they don't. On the other hand, I know that this blog has been important for connecting to people I love and with whom love to work, and it's been an important tool for reflection. I ask my students to write for reflection, so I should be doing it, too.

Is missing a day a reason to stop? Obviously not. But... it feels like it? What is this secret perfectionist hiding inside of me that tells me to stop #MTBoS30 because it's damaged somehow.

It's when I hear that kind of thinking that it really makes me stop and wonder where else am I doing that?

For teaching, did I give up on something I was trying to do (better or feedback, more individualized support, reworked activities, notes about what I tried) because I was inconsistent or had an off day? Or because I tried and it didn't work? Why would I expect something new I tried to work the first time?

For parenting, shoosh. Currently I'm loosing it at least once a day with one of the kids. But today, I'm going to try it again. I can be calm and discuss things, I can. Tomorrow I will start again, despite the zero consecutive successful days.

So I'm blogging again today, one short of a dozen.

In Donald Westlake's Dortmunder books, the not quite small time crook asks 'What's the Worst That Could Happen?' because of a deep and abiding belief that this is exactly what will happen. But it doesn't stop him trying the heist. Because you have to make a living, right? In a way, it makes him a better crook, because he plans contingencies, and keeps calm when things go wrong.
Wrong Hands

I hope you give it a go, whatever you want to try. What's the worst that could happen?